I survived being married to and having children with a Narcissistic Sociopath. I am not a therapist and having no training in the field of psychology but in my opinion and from my extensive research I believe my ex-husband is an undiagnosed sociopath with a narcissistic personality disorder. We were married for 10 ½ years and together for a total of 13 years. We definitely had problems from the beginning and by the end of the first year I was beginning to feel as though I had made a terrible mistake. But there were several things that always brought me back. First, I had known my ex since junior high, we grew up together, had the same group of friends, even dated for a short period of time in high school. To everyone in our circle of friends we had this amazing and beautiful love story of a childhood together, going our separate ways then reuniting and falling madly in love. However from the beginning Bruce’s lying and cheating were a problem. Why stay with, marry and then have children with someone like this? Anyone in the world of psychology will tell you that Narcissists are attracted to strong, competent, self-sufficient women with a strong sense of responsibility and moral fiber. The more self-sufficient and confident a woman is the more determined the narcissist will be to “break her”; if he can make her totally dependent on him it is the ultimate satisfaction for him.
I have been divorced for one year and separated for 2. I started this blog as a resource for other women dealing with the emotional abuse and hell that comes with being with a narcissist or sociopath. Unfortunately my ex is a member of local law enforcement so filing police reports or getting the courts to acknowledge abusive behavior is very difficult.
I hope you find this blog and accompanying resources helpful. It is my hope that all who have experienced this abuse will feel a little less alone, more educated about Sociopaths and NPDs and feel a little less frustrated.